This year for some reason February 14 was extremely annoying. While couples wait patiently for a “surprise” that they are expecting to be placed in a familiar place by their boo. I simply tried to move through my day without gagging. Valentines Day is the sickest, and most fake holiday of them all.
I used to celebrate the holiday until I stopped to reflect and I actually decided to think about what I was doing, and I came up with the 5 Reasons why Valentine’s Day is not for me. Starting with the weirdest thing:
#5. No real ORIGIN – The History of Valentine’s day says nothing about loving your significant other. Granted there are multiple stories and legends about where Valentine’s Day originated, so maybe i missed something, but even that was sketchy to me. Why are there so many stories and legends about this global holiday? Why does the history seem so dark and the holiday so filled with “love”? That was the beginning of the deal breakers, it just didn’t make logical sense.
The world may never know but, we spend too much cash that day! Which leads me to my next reason.
#4. Valentine’s day is #2 for wasting paper, right behind Christmas cards! WHAT A WASTEFUL DAY! We waste money on cards that are not personal enough to genuinely express the love we have for our significant other. If you still have every single card given to you should probably recycle the ones from 7 years ago…But seriously. Cards are sweet for a moment, but they are wastful. Send me an email at least I can save it and have it forever, as long as I remember my password.
LIST of other waste:
Box of SugarChocolate, last maybe a week
Cotton wrapped cotton or Teddy Bears – you can only collect so many, I tried it.
Flowers on life support – If you love them let them grow.
But what do I know….
Reason number 3 could fall into the list of waste, it’s a waste of time and patience. Going out that night is a NIGHTMARE, reservations SUCK, Dinner is rushed and packed. You better off spending time at home together, instead of waiting in lines and driving through thick traffic. Dinner for 2 in a crowded restaurant is kind of counterproductive.
#2. The obligation to express your love publicly or materialistically. People a plastered up and down social media timelines with long drawn out comments addressing their relationship and their feelings. Some even feel neglected if they don’t get a special shout out on Insta. But I would prefer the expression to be face to face, or through intimate contact. I want to feel your energy I don’t want you to express your feelings because Valentines day has arrived, same with #WCW. I need to be your crush 366, 25/8.
Which brings me to my final and most important reason.
#1. My relationship is defined by love, support and our ability to work together, none of which is represented through Valentine’s Day and the expected celebration of the day. I believe my relationship is between two people and gifts, and chocolate doesn’t show me how much he loves me when compared to the intimacy, support during family emergencies, communication, and the peace, laughter and joy it brings just to be in his presence.
Dont get me wrong, I did celebrate Valentines Day… FOR YEARS. But it’s never to late to wake up and appreciate the simple things.